Football Family

My family are into football. Infact my parents actually met through going to watch the football.

For years my dad and my sister have tried to get me into football, to get me to understand it. Very often my dad will tell me something football related and truthfully it just goes over my head. I just did not get it.

My sister played football while growing up and a few years ago got back into playing it. I used to go watch her play when i was not working. Now that i don’t working i make it to a lot more games.

At the beginning I had no clue! I knew you kicmed the ball and hoped to score, that is it! Truthfully, I do not actually know much more than that now, but i have at least learned to cheer when the right team scores!

Now i might not actually know much about the game itself, but i like going to the games and watching them. I like watching the team work and support for each other. I like the encouragement and the progress and achievements. I like watching the friendships and the bonding.

Now i am not part of the actual football team. However, i have received support from some of these ladies. I have received real encouragement. After one conversation with one of the team, i went from feeling completely useless to feeling more positive that things can change. I am included in the laughs and the nights out and team celebrations. They held a minute silence in honour of my nana when she died.

And that is so very important.

These ladies are kind to each other. They work hard at improving their own game. They work hard at improving as a team. They build each other up! They support one another. They celebrate birthdays, achievements, the good times. And they are there offering support and shoulders to cry on through the tough times. They seem to get that life is tough and it can throw a lot of curveballs. But they are kind to one another. And help build each other up. They get that we are all feeling our way through life.

I hope they all continue on this way.

I hope they know the impact that their support has on other people.

Also, they finished their season today with a 6-0 win and secured themselves the 3rd position in the league table! It was a great end to their season! Look at me knowing a few football terms!

World Mental Health Day 2018

Today is World Mental Health Day.

Awareness days like this are important as it starts a conversation and raises awareness. It also acts as a wee reminder of how important mental health is. However, everyday should be mental health awareness day!

Looking after your mental health is just as important as looking after your physical health. Days like today remind people that it’s ok to not be ok, and it’s ok to reach out for help.

Signs of poor mental health:

  • Confusion
  • Depression, prolonged sadness
  • Irritability
  • Feelings of extreme highs and lows
  • Anxiety, excessive fear and worrying
  • Social withdrawal
  • Changes in appetite
  • Changes in sleeping habits
  • Anger
  • Delusions and/or hallucinations
  • Problems coping with daily life
  • Suicidal thoughts/ thoughts of self harm

This list is by no means complete, just a start of signs to look out for.

Remember to be kind to one another. You don’t know the struggles that people are going through as we all feel our way through life.

Hospice Care Week

Yesterday marked the start of Hospice Care Week.

Hospices do extraordinary work. When people think of a hospice they automatically think of it as a place that people go to die… but that is not the case. A hospice is also about life. It is about promoting life. It’s about fully experiencing life and receiving the right care and support to do so until such times that end of life care may need to be offered.

Hospices, don’t only help inpatients but they support people out in the community too. They help and support people and their loved through such tough times!

Check out https://www.hospiceuk.org/support-us/campaigns/hospice-care-week for more information about hospice care week.

Happy Grandparents Day

Today is National Grandparents Day.

My grandparents mean the world to me.

I am lucky enough to still have 2 grandparent with me. In fact, I live with my papa. Actually, I was lucky enough to have 4 grandparents and 2 great grandparents in my life right until my late teens. I know not everybody has that. I know I was blessed to have them all while growing up.

Grandparents play a vital role in educating and molding their grandchildren. I know mine were to me. My grandparents practically raised me, they played that big a role in my upbringing!

I spent my day today with my dad and my papa watching my sister play football.

Talk to your grandparents, ask to hear their stories. They can be pretty funny. They have had a life. Talk about their memories. Listen to them and learn. Learn about their life, their experiences, their family, their lessons! Get to know them and value their wisdom. They were just like us, feeling their way through life. They still are!

Happy World Smile Day!

Today is world smile day!! 🙂

A smile is such a powerful thing, it can change a person’s perspective and make their day better.

Some things that make me smile:

  • My family and my friends
  • My cat!
  • That feeling of music when you can feel it deep in your body.
  • Trees. I also like the way the branches look against the sky. There is something strong and beautiful with trees.
  • Beautiful scenery. Whether that be at a beach or in the country or even a town/city with beautiful landmarks.
  • Music. I love how music can make you feel. I love when there is a beautiful melody or harmonies. I like it all!
  • Weaving! That feeling of accomplishment when you finish a wee sample and you can look at it and go “I did that!”
  • Having a wee hot chocolate and catch up with my loved ones.
  • Watching some uplifting programmes. Netflix is a great tool to have on bad pain days!
  • Looking through photos and memories.
  • Wrapping up warm and cosy during those winter months.
  • Having a bath!

These are just a few things that make me smile. There are loads more. It is important to find what bring us joy. It brings a bit of light to hardships and dark times as we feel our way through life.

World Vegetarian Day

Today is world vegetarian day.

Technically, my diet label is not vegetarian…. But I basically am.

So in 2010/11 (wow, I cannot believe it’s actually been that long!) I decided to change my diet. When it came to meat I was always really fussy. I would eat chicken, mince and ham and that was pretty much it. I would eat steak but only if it was my nana who made it, and only if it was stewed and came with a wee bit of pastry. Fussy.

In 2010 I left school and started uni. I had a few friends that were vegetarian and when I was out I was tending to order vegetarian meals. I guess it started around there. My diet became largely plant based. I’ve always eaten loads of veg but never a full meal of it.

At the end of my first year in uni I attended Download, a music festival. My family had told me I needed to be careful of what I was eating there since I’d be away from home, living in a tent etc. I didn’t touch meat the whole time away.

From then, I’ve pretty much stuck to a plant based diet. I now don’t eat red meats or poultry. I have not done so for years. However, I do eat fish. But I am fussy with that too. I eat tuna and mackerel. I feel the inclusion of omega 3 in my diet is important. Omega 3 fatty acids has many health benefits, it’s good for the brain and it has been found to be good for joints and bones.

It was around the same time that widespread pain was becoming more of an issue for me. I was a support worker and I was going through uni. My thought process was anything to help the brain and bones is a good thing. To this day, I have continued to eat fish for these reasons.

I may not technically be a vegetarian but I primarily follow a vegetarian diet, with some added omega fatty acids.

This is only my own story. People become vegetarian for a multitude of reasons.

Fibromyalgia Awareness Day 2018

Today is fibromyalgia awareness day. I’m posting a lot later than what I wanted to do today but I have had a busy day. I went to see an amazing wee play called Invisible today with my dad. It is written by Charlie Marx. It pretty much hits the nail on the head on what life with fibromyalgia is like. I felt quite emotional after watching it, it was so relatable. This story is so close to my own. It was educational, inspiring and hopeful. It made me feel hope. A feeling that I have been lacking a lot recently. I left the hall feeling valid, I felt that I was not a lone. I felt that I although I do not know what my future holds, it is worth finding out what it holds. I was reminded of the joy that life can bring and felt hope for my future. That changes could happen… For the better!

Fibromyalgia is common, and yet it is surprising how many people have never heard of it. I knew very little about it before I was diagnosed. When I say I knew very little about it, what I really mean is I knew a person who had it and I knew it caused pain. That was it! That was all I knew.

As you can see, fibromyalgia is a lot more than just pain. This is something that causes me a lot of health related anxiety. There are so many symptoms and effects. My fear is that I could have something else wrong with me and a health professional could just attribute it to the fact that I have fibromyalgia and not receive, or be able to manage it properly. I think that I have finally found a GP who listens to me and takes my condition seriously, but even he sometimes listens to what I’m saying and relates it to me having fibromyalgia instantly. I try to keep track of any new symptom, or any changes of symptoms. If you have new symptoms, you should tell a medical profession and get it checked!

Fibromyalgia symptoms can be anything from a mere irritation to debilitating. The severity of symptoms can vary from person to person. They can vary from day to day, hour to hour.

I think it is particularly important to remember that fibromyalgia does not discriminate by age! I am only 25, I have been having symptoms for years. I was a teenager when I started showing symptoms. In fact, there are times in childhood, that I remember having multiple appointments due to having ‘unexplained’ pain. I often wonder if this was the start of my troubles.

Despite fibromyalgia awareness day now coming to a close, it is important to continue to spread awareness.

Be kind to yourself, and other people. You don’t know what struggles people are going through. People are all just trying to feel their way through life!

No New Year New Me

It’s the start of January 2018. January is a month that people tend to start things – diets, plans, projects. A lot of the time its “New Year, New Me” that you hear being called out, everywhere.


Now I’m not saying I’m perfect, or don’t need to make changes in my life or lifestyle. That is the furthest thing from the truth. I just don’t buy into the “New Year New Me” ideology.


I understand it’s a new year. I understand that there’s already a mark of something new. I understand that the year ending and a new one beginning tends to make people reflect upon themselves, their year and their life. I just don’t think that the ‘old’ you disappears and you become this ‘new’ self. I think that you learn something new, try something new or make a change and then work through the potential challenges. I also think these changes become part of you rather than a full makeover.


The usual kind of resolutions are:

  • Go to the gym more/ Do more exercise

  • Eat less sugar/fatty food

  • Procrastinate less

  • Find a partner

  • To have our life sorted out

This is only a very small example of the usual kind of resolutions that people make. By the end of January new year resolutions have usually ‘failed’ or been forgotten about, usually until the year is ending and they are recycled again for the following year. It’s stressful.


I’ve said before that I am sure that everybody is just trying to feel their way through life and I still stand by that. I think these changes can be made at any time and not just new year and these changes and experience become part of you or play a part in making you who you are, and not magically turn you into a new person. I think that these changes are part of your growth and self development as a person. That being said I understand why, to a degree, that the phrase “New Year, New Me” is used. If people don’t like something about themselves or want to change something about themselves then they want it to disappear or instantly become different.


If I had to have a new year’s resolution, I guess it this:

I would like to continue on my journey of self development and growth. I would like to have a year full of love and laughter with my nearest and dearest and maintain my current relationships. I want to keep trying. I want to keep trying to see the good and positive aspects in situations, in people and in life.


The idea of completely changing myself is appealing in some ways but realistically I know that it’s not going to happen. All I can do is keep on. Keep on trying and keep on feeling my way through life.


*picture credit: I found the image on Google

Happy New Year 

The new year is fast approaching. It’s in 6 hours time in the UK at my time of typing this. I got a card from my best friend with a wee message in it and it is also my wish for all of you!

“I hope you have a 2018 that is filled with love, laughter, progress, happiness and good things!”

I hope the year ahead brings joy for you all and your loved ones. I hope you find progress in everything, whether that be health, savings, relationship problems, uni, college, school, work, that project you started. I hope that progress is made. I hope the year is full of rich experienced that will become memories that bring you joy forever. I wish you happiness, I wish you the ability to find the good in things and spread that happiness about. I hope you have a million reasons to smile. Wherever you are, however you are bringing in the new year, I wish you all the best for 2018.

Christmas Eve 2017

Today is Christmas Eve!

Christmas can be the ‘most wonderful time of the year.’ On the other hand, it can be a very difficult time for people. It is a time when loved ones are remembered, and their absence are most felt. It can be stressful trying to organise everything – get in or book a place for Christmas dinner, buying in gifts, wrapping the gifts, sending out the Christmas cards. People worry about their finances, can they afford buying presents, when will they have the money to go shopping? Some people put themselves into debt with trying to buy gifts for Christmas. It can be difficult. Dealing with a chronic condition on top of all these other stresses can be difficult. These extra stressors put extra strain on a person and can cause flare ups or make management of symptoms more difficult, which is not ideal. 

Sometimes, I think the meaning of Christmas has been lost. The Christmas spirit is a magical thing! It’s about spreading love, and cheer. It’s about helping people. It’s about seeing children’s faces light up at the magic of the season. It’s about family and friendship, and spending time with those loved ones. It is not about the material objects and the waste that can occur. It’s about the good deeds – making hampers for homeless people, visiting elderly people so they are not lonely, making an effort to help people, simply saying ‘hi’ to people, wishing them well.

The magic, and meaning of Christmas, can be brought about by being nice. Just try to be a decent human being. Treat people with respect. Help people, even if it is just to lend an ear and give them an opportunity to have somebody to talk to. Try not to make fast judgements of people and their situations. Just be nice! I really think it could be as easy as that. When I was in school, at assembly the head teacher would always say “treat others as you would like to be treated yourself.” It has been something that has always stuck with me and I have tried to live my life by. Yes, there are times I fail but I am human, and I’m just trying to feel my way through life.

I hope that everybody has a lovely Christmas time and gets to experience that magical, feeling. I hope everybody feels love, happiness and value.